And how you can do the same…
Hi, my name is Sophia, and I have a little confession: for a long time, I used to really hate myself.
Looking back, I wish someone could have told me what to do years ago. I would have given anything to be free of the depression and lack of confidence that kept me from taking action on my dreams.
Fortunately, I didn’t give up and now I’m finally feeling like myself—like the person who can look people in the eye, smile at strangers, and speak up when she has something to say without being afraid of rejection, and I want to show you how.
You see, for a long time, I felt like the world was passing me by. I was constantly comparing myself to other people, and I was always coming up short.
I was stuck in an endless spiral of negativity. My self-esteem was in the toilet, and even though I tried to tell myself that no one else was actually better than me, it just wasn’t working.
It made me feel insecure about myself. My lack of confidence meant that I wasn’t taking action on ideas that occurred to me, even small ones—because what if it turned out badly? What if something went wrong? What if people laughed at me?
Because of this mindset, I found myself procrastinating life away—never doing anything, never taking any risks, never getting anywhere.
A few years ago, I was working in a job I hated, living in an apartment I hated and feeling overwhelmed by my life. My self-esteem had taken such a beating that I didn’t even know who I was anymore!
At work, I felt like my coworkers had all the good ideas while mine were rubbish. And when they did something, they succeeded while I failed.
I had a constant problem with depression. Whenever a new project would come up, I’d always go ‘I will fail anyway’, ‘it’ll be a mess’, and many more different excuses. Due to this reason, I was procrastinating; which led to me feeling miserable because I was failing every assignment.
Because of this, I started putting things off. Nothing that would help me improve my life. Instead, I watched Netflix or started overeating all day instead of doing what was really important to me.
I’ve always dreamt of becoming a writer. But I convinced myself that I couldn’t do it because I knew lots of people who wrote better than me.
So one day I got the call — the HR person on the phone had discovered my resume online and told me she wanted to meet with me about this dream job opportunity at her company.
When she invited me to come in for an interview, my heart swelled with hope but then plummeted as soon as she hung up. Why? Because that negative voice in my head started talking again:
‘You’re not good enough for this job!’
‘You’ll never get it!’
I couldn’t even think about leaving the apartment for fear that someone would find out about this amazing opportunity and take it from me before I even had time to try for myself! So, what did I do? Nothing! That’s right, nothing at all…for three days straight until finally sending an email saying, ‘Sorry but no thanks.’
I immediately felt like a failure, and since I felt like a failure, nothing else mattered any because nothing would ever be good enough.
The problem was that thinking that way really made it true: after all, if you’re convinced you’ll fail, why try? That’s how I ended up turning down my dream job and made up an excuse that they wanted someone who could handle the pressure.
Thank God I have a best friend who could keep up with my absolute lack of responsibility or reliability even back then when I was unbearable.
First, she tried really hard to bring me to a therapist but I couldn’t afford it. And even if I did, it was really hard to find a therapist that I could completely trust.
Nevertheless, she didn’t give up until she came up with an original solution. She called me over and showed me a website. It was a quick quiz asking simple questions, and she convinced me to answer them honestly.
Based on my answers the system, guided by psychologists and professional therapists, generated a customized three-month plan that it claimed would allow me to overcome my depression, lack of motivation, and procrastination.
Despite being skeptical, I decided to give it a go. This was the least that I could do to make a change. And surprisingly, the change did come, and it turned out way better than I ever expected.
What the program did, essentially, was to completely change my perspective and rewire my brain into thinking more positively.
Soon I realized that In reality, it was all about my default thinking patterns that became an unseparated part of my mind from early childhood. It was not just my circumstances that shaped the way I felt and behaved — it was my perception of those circumstances.
After an iterative self-analysis and guided exploration into my past experiences, it became clear that my procrastination was rooted in a deep sense of insecurity and self-loathing.
I’d grown up in an atmosphere where my parents were constantly comparing me unfavorably to other people—not just on the surface level of looks or school performance, but also in terms of talents and skills.
Once I realized that, everything changed.
It’s no surprise that by the time I was old enough to have hobbies or interests of my own, I felt so ashamed of myself that getting started on anything seemed overwhelming and exhausting.
I was trying really hard to win others’ approval, but I just kept screwing up. I believed that there was something wrong with me and that I would never find a way out of the hole I’d dug for myself.
The main reason for that was that I was judging myself according to my achievements and others’ opinions about me.
Have you ever felt this way? If so, then you might be suffering from a very common disease that I called confidence deficiency disorder.
The symptoms are procrastination and a deep sense of inadequacy.
It makes life feel so challenging, and at times it feels like you’re trying to navigate a maze with all of the doors locked. You just can’t find a way out.
But what if I told you that there was a way out? A way to stop beating yourself up. To start believing in yourself. To eliminate negative self-talk and call it out immediately when it happens. To be able to see value in yourself and get things done. And it’s so rewarding…
That’s where Virtue Map comes in, and it’s the key to my newfound confidence, happiness, and success.
And to think, it all started with a simple quiz!
Click below to take a quick quiz and receive a personalized anti-procrastination plan that will help you crush your goals and achieve the harmony that you have been thirsting for such a long time.
After all, if you’re in a situation like mine, there’s so much to gain and so little to lose by trying.
Best of luck on your journey!
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