How I Bounced Back From Feeling Like Sh*t By Overcoming My Life-Long Procrastination

Henry here, and I’m writing this today with a terrific sense of relief. I feel as though a huge weight I’ve been living with for almost 55 years has been lifted from my shoulders. And I want to tell you why.

I hope you can spare yourself the suffering I endured and overcome your procrastination before it inflicts the toll on you that it did on me. Even though I’ve come out the other side a much more confident and, frankly, better man, the journey to get here was so tough, I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

Just Another Day

I was a procrastinator since I was a kid. I remember, in grade school, my teachers warned me that my habit of waiting till the last minute to complete assignments would come back to bite me someday. Needless to say, their advice went in one ear and out the other.

This continued through college, but I still graduated without too much stress. Of course, I had to pull a few all-nighters, but that was just part of being a college student as far as I knew. Besides, if I screwed up, I was the only one who would be hurt. Well, that all changed when I started a family.

Taking a Toll

When I was single and living alone, I could squeak out a project at the last minute, go days without doing laundry, or get around to paying bills whenever money was available in my checking account.

But then my life changed. My wife and I had our first child, and all of a sudden, my procrastination wasn’t just affecting me anymore. It wasn’t just my health or my bank account that suffered; it was my family’s.

Still, I struggled to stay on top of things. I’d put things off again and again until it finally became a joke for everyone who knew me.

I felt like the older I got the quicker life went by. My kids grew up so fast, started their own families, and there I was, already a grandfather with no control over my life whatsoever.

And then one day, it stopped being funny.

My wife’s health took a downturn and she needed help managing her medicine and doctor’s appointments; My grown children were sometimes forgetting their kids’ school registrations; My grandkids would end up sick way more often than they should have been.

The thing is, I was the one who could help them — and I couldn’t even manage to pay bills on time because I was procrastinating, causing no end of headaches for my wife trying to figure out our finances.

All the while, I knew that if I could only get ahead of things instead of constantly playing from behind, everything would be so much easier, and my family would be better off.

But I simply couldn’t.

And as my procrastination continued to cause my family hardship, I spiraled down into deeper and deeper depression and anxiety. Not only did I feel like a failure for causing all this, but my day-to-day mood also grew darker and darker.

I was not a pleasant person to be around.

Of course, my children and grandkids picked up on this, and they would go out of their way to interact with my wife rather than me. That, in turn, made me feel like a pathetic excuse for a parent and a human being.


As I watched them grow up without participating in their lives, cheering on their successes, and helping them up when they stumbled, my marriage was on the brink of collapse. My wife simply couldn’t do it all – especially when she had to spend her time and energy propping me up as well.

So, she finally gave me an ultimatum. Fix this, or else.

She knew that was the only way to get through to me.
She helped me find a therapist to try and find the cause of my procrastination and all the mental anguish that went along with it.

But that proved to be easier said than done.

While my therapist was able to help me document how my procrastination related to my depression, changing my behavior was a different story.

The first thing she tried, of course, was a regimen of anti-depressants and anti-anxiety drugs. Six months of that, I felt even more disconnected from the world around me and ambivalent about life. Worse, procrastination continued to be the way I dealt with just about everything. I wanted off the drugs, but my wife and therapist were reluctant to do that without something to replace them.

Then, one morning, my elder daughter called me over and showed me a website. It asked probing questions regarding the nature of my procrastination and how it made me feel, and she convinced me to answer them honestly.

Sea Change

Based on my answers, the system, guided by psychologists and wellness professionals, created a customized three-month plan that it claimed would allow me to overcome my procrastination.

My daughter and I were both skeptical – after all, nothing else had worked to that point.
But for that very reason, and the fact that they were offering a significant discount which made the program considerably cheaper than therapy, we decided to give it a go.

I’m not going to sit here and say that things changed overnight. They didn’t. Although, in the grand scheme of things, the month it took for me to start seeing results was a drop in the bucket compared to the months of stagnation and years of banging my head against the wall before that.

But the results did come, and my entire outlook on life changed.

Getting Ahead of The Game

What this program did, essentially, was rewire my daily routine so that procrastination wasn’t even something I thought of. It simply made no sense to wait to do something when I could do it right then.

That complete sea change of perspective was what broke me free of procrastination, and as I began to take a proactive approach to my life, my self-esteem began to grow as well. I no longer felt like a failure; I no longer felt like someone no one wanted to be around.
And that has made all the difference in my life as a father and professional.

Finally, I feel like I’m not constantly playing catch-up, and I hope never to feel that way again.
And to think, it all started with a simple quiz!

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After that, it’s only a matter of choosing to give it a whirl.

After all, if you’re in a situation like mine, there’s so much to gain and so little to lose by trying.

Best of luck on your journey!

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